May I get a little personal? What are you wearing underneath your clothes? Yes, I’m talking about your bra and panties. Now, let me ask you another question. Would you be proud or horrified if something happened, and the world was staring at your current state of lingerie affairs? If you are a woman that walks out of her home every day and deals with the world, and even if you never see the light of day, what you wear underneath your clothes matters. I’m talking seriously matters.
In your world, everything is energy, and energy is creating your current reality. If you are wearing holey panties and stretched out bras, what kind of energy are you creating? What message are you sending to the world? How is it impacting your relationships? Your business? Your health? I can tell you…it’s not good!
Regardless of whether you’re single or in a blazing hot love affair, your unmentionables are sending a very powerful message to your psyche. Either you think you’re worth it, or you don’t, and that, my love, impacts everything!
Let’s take a stroll through a Parisian arrondisement, shall we?
Around almost every corner, you will see shops with beautifully constructed bras, panties, garter belts and such made from the highest quality materials displayed in the window. In fact, even the smallest of villages in France will often have at least one lingerie shop to appease its community, affirming the high value that the French place on unmentionables.
French women spend 20% of their annual clothing budget on lingerie. Yes, 20 percent! Just like shoes and handbags, lingerie is a staple in the French woman’s closet. Perhaps, it’s more important, because they understand that everything is about intention. If a woman is wearing something beautiful underneath her clothing, she sends a very powerful message to herself and the world, and we see it as confidence and mystique.
In La Seduction, Elaine Sciolino says that French women dress themselves (lingerieincluded) to send the message: “I am on a high plane, in control of my destiny and my beauty. I am not easy to attain. Do you think you are up to my standard? If no, stay away. If yes, come and try to get me.” While France is the land of seduction, many of my French girlfriends have seconded that lingerie is worn to make them feel good. If a guy gets lucky enough to see it, then he should consider himself blessed.
Now, I’d like to address the three most popular rebuttals I get when I start talking lingerie at a cocktail party (and yes, I do bring up this topic).
First, if you find yourself thinking, “But, those French women have the bodies to wear fancy panties,” let me assure you that not every French woman is a size 2, and they don’t all have perfect bodies. Just like most women, they have their lumps, bumps, and flaws. But, typically, they are kinder to themselves, and they never deny themselves the pleasure of enjoying their bodies, regardless of age or size.
Secondly, if you think that just because no one will see it, it doesn’t matter, I respectfully disagree. It’s like saying that you’re not going to clean your house because no one ever visits. You live there. Don’t you matter? Uh….yeah!
I sometimes joke with people and tell them that I built my business on lingerie and lipstick. Even though I sale neither (yet) and I rarely see clients face to face, I have personally experienced the power of getting up each day, putting on a beautiful bra and panty underneath my clothes, applying some lipstick and starting my day. Knowing that I’ve taken the time and effort to adorn my body in beautiful lingerie affirms my self-worth, boosts my self-confidence, ignites my feminine creativity and helps me take myself seriously. (Sorry, but I find it hard to take myself or my work seriously when I’m lounging in my PJ’s all day.)
Lastly, if you think that you’re not “that kind of girl,” I have a couple of thoughts to share. Our mothers and grandmothers fought hard to make sure we have the sweet freedom that we experience today, but I want to assure you that it’s okay to be “that kind of girl,” one who finds great satisfaction in seducing and pleasing man. It’s fun. It’s playful. And, it’s very natural. Ultimately, you are the one receiving the pleasure, mais non? French women believe that they can be strong and independent and seductresses. And, just in case Prince Charming unexpectedly shows up on your doorstep, you’d probably prefer not greeting him in your granny panties.
But, let’s not forget that beautiful lingerie is not about seducing a man per se; it’s about seducing yourself. Ultimately, it’s selfish; something just for you. And, trust me, if it’s a man you’re after, he’ll know, because you’ll walk differently, hold yourself in higher regard and, yes, you’ll feel tres sexy! Darling, investing in beautiful lingerie is about a life long love affair with yourself.
Let’s talk about this ladies. Do you value beautiful lingerie? Leave your comments below, sil vous plait!
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